So, I’m back! I ended up taking a break from blogging and stuff. I think 2011 was a challenging year so no wonder I was tired! I think everyone was weary and glad to see it go.
I’ve had to make many decisions this past year about the people I surround myself with. I learned that if a ‘friend’ who makes too many ‘demands’, or is critical of who I am, ones who set unrealistic expectations of who I should be based on their value system (not mine) or discharge their frustration on me for not meeting their ideals — i learned that maybe these aren’t the kind of ‘friends’ I should surround myself with.
The Angels tell me that this is part of Extreme Self-Care and at times it is necessary for souls, especially sensitive ones, to disconnect from draining interactions with others. This doesn’t mean just ‘energy vampires’ but also relationships that are out of balance. Its OK to take time for your self and come back to self awareness of what is really yours and what is being taken on from others and realize you don’t need to take it on, and hold it.
Sometimes, having someone get pissed off with you is a good thing.
And feeling ANGRY is also a good thing.
It means energy is moving. It means that if you are establishing new boundaries, it’s working. And maybe those getting mad at you notice those new boundaries. They don’t like it. But that’s ok.
It’s ok to stand up for yourself. To draw that line in the sand and maintain those boundaries. In fact, it’s empowering.
People all have free will. They can make their choices.
But you know what? By choosing to uphold my own boundaries, to walk in the energy that is of integrity and to love myself and stand up for my value, that’s my choice.
I have had a season of house cleaning. I have had to end relationships (including one today) that are draining and have made me feel devalued. It’s a challenging lesson to have but I really stood up for myself today and it felt GOOD. I felt a fire in my belly and a release.
Being a sensitive soul, I have often just sat back, in fear and taken being used. I was always afraid to make waves and push back. But I’ve realized that to be strong, especially as a light worker, you also have to embrace your power.
Anger is given to us for a reason. Did you know that? For most of my life, I didn’t. Like most spiritual seekers, I thought anger was negative, a low vibrating emotion to be avoided because it wasn’t enlightened.
But tonight my angels tell me differently.
ALL of our emotions are here to serve a purpose.
Anger, when you pay attention to it, speak it and move serves as our protector. It is there to act as an alarm to tell you something is wrong. It is definitely OK to get angry.
It’s when we don’t acknowledge it, hold onto it that’s what is toxic.
But be prepared. When someone has cords with you and is sucking your energy, boy can they become nasty when you enforce new boundaries. Be prepared to stand up, stand strong. Don’t be afraid of them getting mad too. You ( and I) always have the right to make our choices and most importantly, establish our boundaries.
And hey, if they are that mad about you loving yourself and respecting yourself enough to stand up for yourself maybe the biggest message is that this is a relationship you’ve outgrown and it’s served its purpose… To help you learn that you are loveable and deserve respect.
When you are feeling like this, call on Arch Angel Michael and Arch Angel Uriel. Michael is the protector and will assist you in cutting those cords and shielding from other people’s toxic ‘slime’. Uriel is the FIRE of God and he will assist you in getting up the gumption to clear out those old relationships that aren’t healthful for you anymore. He will help ignite that fire in your belly and assist you in standing in your power!
So, some signs that a friendship isn’t that balanced…
- if they never show interest in you, but always focus on their drama – buh bye
- their focus was always on what they want or ‘need’ but they didn’t value you for who you are or your time – sayonara
- if they call you names like ‘victim’ or ‘lier’ because your enforcing your boundaries – so long.
Michael and Uriel are happy to help you in cleaning up these old relationships and assist you in finding opportunities to make new friends. Simply ask them!
Blessings!